“Jesus
called them to him, saying,
“Let the little
children come to me, and do not hinder them,
for to such
belongs the kingdom of God.”
(Luke 18:16, ESV)
With
low amniotic fluid, none of the ultrasounds would reveal whether the baby was a
boy or a girl. We couldn’t give our child a name.
Still, I tried to bond with my
baby by pressing my fingers against its feet as it stretched out in my
womb.
I hoped my little one could feel my touch and know me in some way.
I hoped my little one could feel my touch and know me in some way.
On
December 5, 2003, I began feeling a sharp pain in my stomach and lower
back. It seemed to come every few
minutes. Soon, I realized that I was in
labor, so we rushed to the hospital.
The
maternity ward was full that afternoon, so we had to sit for a long time in the
waiting room. A young woman with a
swollen belly like mine sat next to Billy and me. She looked like she was about seventeen and was
giving birth alone. As we talked, I
found myself starting to feel jealous of this young girl who was probably going
to have a healthy baby. Why couldn’t I have a healthy child, too?
The
girl left to have her baby, and I was left to struggle with trusting God. The “why” of suffering threatened to
overwhelm me and steal my peace. I
closed my eyes and took a deep breath and focused on the truth. God is
letting me go through this valley of grief, but He is not going to leave me alone. He hasn’t turned His back on me. Will I turn my back on Him?
“Even
though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I fear no evil, for You are with me;
Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.” (Psalm 23:4, NASB)
My
peace was restored when I remembered Christ’s unfailing love for me. Despite my sinfulness and brokenness, He
still loved me. I could still trust in
the One who died for me. Billy and I
prayed for the girl that she would come to know Christ and know that she was
never alone.
There
were no rooms available, so we were ushered to a bed separated by curtains from
other patients. The labor was long, and
it was hard telling each nurse attending us that our baby was going to
die. One nurse, who was sympathetic to
our situation, found us a spare room.
It
was about three o’clock in the afternoon and the time had come for the baby to
be born. A resident doctor originally from
India took up the assignment to deliver our child. She was young, but I felt confident I was in
good hands. As I gave the final push,
the nursing staff stood by, quietly awaiting to attend to our child.
As
soon as I gave birth, the doctor gently unwound the umbilical cord that was wrapped
around the baby’s neck. She delicately
passed our child over to the attending nurses.
Everyone was silent. I couldn’t tell how our baby was doing.
Billy
watched as the nurses checked over the baby and wiped it off. Soon, they swaddled the baby in a blanket. Billy cradled the
little bundle in his arms and looked at our child so sweetly.
“It’s
a boy,” he said. This stunned me. I thought our baby would be a girl, maybe because we
already had a daughter. I placed my hand on his head and sighed.
Luke
Joseph Griese is name, and he is our son.
Billy
gently handed Luke over to me, and he was as light as a feather. His tiny body was curled up in his blanket,
and his eyes were shut tight. My heart
overflowed with love. I didn’t realize
how much I already loved Luke, until I saw him face-to-face.
I wanted so much to hold his little hands, so I unwrapped his right hand and held it. These were the five miniature fingers that I longed to touch as he pushed against my womb. Now, here he was, nestled up to my chest, so small, so precious.
I wanted so much to hold his little hands, so I unwrapped his right hand and held it. These were the five miniature fingers that I longed to touch as he pushed against my womb. Now, here he was, nestled up to my chest, so small, so precious.
A few close friends and family members came to visit. My small group leaders Mark and Cecilia Groff, my uncle, and Billy's family.
Everyone gathered around us to admire the beautiful creation laid in my arms. We were surrounded by love.
I wanted everyone to hold Luke and get a chance to experience him. We all felt so rich to hold in our arms this little gift.
Cecilia,
suggested to me that it would be a good idea to nurse him. I was reluctant at first, afraid that he
would choke. But, after some thought, I
reconsidered. When I tried to nurse him,
he was too weak, and by the time I finally gave up, both Luke and I were
frustrated.
Mark
read to us from the book of Revelation, a passage that vividly described the
city of God. As he read, Luke stopped
breathing, and I felt him slipping away. We silently prayed for him and waited.
He started moving again. His rosebud lips turned pink and his cheeks became rosy. He even started crying and acting like he was hungry and put his hand to his mouth.
He started moving again. His rosebud lips turned pink and his cheeks became rosy. He even started crying and acting like he was hungry and put his hand to his mouth.
I
tried nursing him again, this time, successfully. We lay there together in perfect peace. Luke opened one eye to peek up at me. He caught a glimpse of his mommy who loved
him with all her heart.
Luke's birth went well and he was still breathing, but he still had Potter's Syndrome. His lungs hadn't fully developed, and he had no kidneys. I knew he wouldn't have much time with us. I thanked God for each hour that I got to spend with my little boy.
Luke's birth went well and he was still breathing, but he still had Potter's Syndrome. His lungs hadn't fully developed, and he had no kidneys. I knew he wouldn't have much time with us. I thanked God for each hour that I got to spend with my little boy.
"Love never ends...So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love." (1 Corinthians 13:8, 13)
This is Part 4 of my story, Journey of Loss. Here is the link to Part 5.
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